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When Everything Falls Apart; Traver Boehm on The Lost Art of Initiation

Betty Cottam Bertels Season 1 Episode 10

Traver Boehm is the founder of the fastest growing men's movement in the world. He has given two TedTalks, and written two books (with another one on the way).

But most of all, he is such a joy. I am sure you will love listening to his story.

Greeting and how Betty & Traver met in London last year

Traver on how it all fell apart for him

Coming to view the falling apart as Initiation

Everything you want is on the other side of the falling apart

Therapies Traver tried; EMDR & Jungian Analysis

Sleepwalking through life 

What do you really want?

The role of elders and other men

Rejecting ‘normal’; deciding to complete a dark retreat

Traver speak of his ‘Year to Live’ (inspired by the book by Stephen Levine)

Traver speaks of his experience of the dark retreat

How pain gets passed down from generation to generation

Unexpressed pain

Beyond competition: the magic of same-sex groups: men’s work & women’s work

Betty thanks Traver for the work he is doing in the world


Traver Boehm’s Website; Man Uncivilized: https://www.manuncivilized.com/meet-traver-boehm 

The Uncivilized Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/49-days-in-the-pitch-dark/id1448906480?i=1000643347125 

Traver’s Event in London on Saturday June 8th: https://www.manuncivilized.com/offers/bEJqsot9/checkout 


From Betty: Being in business means being visible. Being ethical in business means being authentic in how we present ourselves.

The trouble is… Many of us carry wounds around being seen, accepted, and celebrated as the individual we are. Left untended, these wounds divide our will, i.e. we end up with conflicted desires:

Part of us wants to be visible to grow our businesses, but another part of us is absolutely dead set on staying well and truly within the shadows…

…whether that means literally hiding under the duvet (I've been there 🥸),

…or whether that means pretending to be someone we are not, so as not to stand out (I've also been there 🤫).

Not only is this BORING, but also… it doesn't WORK:

When we hide our personality, we hide the exact aspects that enable our perfect fit clients to find us, so we end up with people that aren't really a good match, or worse, no one at all.

It's time to drop the shoulds and start being UNAPOLOGETIC in your business.

Save your seat at Betty's free 2 hour authentic visibility masterclass now.

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